There’s a truth we often overlook when it comes to love: no one can truly love another until they’ve conquered themselves.
Not the essence of who they are, but the barriers they’ve built—the ego, the pride, the fear of vulnerability.
These walls, built from past wounds and insecurities, may shield us from pain, but they also block us from experiencing love in its most profound form.
If someone in your life cannot get over themselves—cannot let go of their ego—they will never be able to fully love you.
This truth isn’t an indictment; it’s a reality.
Love requires openness, humility, and the willingness to step outside one’s own needs and fears.
It’s not just about receiving love but giving it freely, without conditions, expectations, or the need to control.
Letting them go isn’t about punishment or abandonment; it’s about freedom.
When you release someone who’s trapped in their ego, you’re giving them the space to grow.
If they are meant to return, they will—stronger, more self-aware, and capable of loving without reservations.
But this isn’t just about others.
The same rule applies to you.
If you can’t get over yourself—your doubts, your fears, your need to always be right—you’ll never be able to love fully either.
True love demands that we step beyond the intellectual realm of ego, where everything is calculated and defended, and into the intuitive realm of the heart, where vulnerability and connection thrive.
The ego, after all, is a creation of the mind.
It thrives on logic, self-preservation, and control.
Love, on the other hand, is born in the heart.
It’s intuitive, boundless, and selfless.
It doesn’t ask, “What can I get?” but rather, “What can I give?”
The two cannot coexist in their purest forms.
When you let go of your ego, you open yourself to the kind of love that transforms—not just your relationships, but your life.
It’s the love that sees the other person in their entirety—their flaws, their fears, their beauty—and chooses them anyway.
It’s the love that says, “I see you, and I am here.”
So, if you’re holding on to someone who can’t get over themselves, or if you’re struggling with your own ego, remember this: letting go isn’t losing.
It’s trusting in the power of growth and the possibility of something greater.
True love isn’t a battlefield; it’s a sanctuary.
But to enter, you must leave your armor—the ego—at the door.
And when you do, you’ll discover a depth of connection that words can scarcely describe.
Let go.
Grow.
And when the time is right, love—real love—will meet you there.
With love, yours truly, Cristian, in collaboration with ChatGPT.