When I hear people talk with ease about life balance, I immediately assume that inheritance or mediocrity is the place from which they make the statement.
I must add that when I say inheritance, I don’t necessarily mean money. Inheritance could be love, a healthy family, or wisdom.
Don’t get me wrong—I am happy for them, and I am not judging—but life balance is a concept to aim at for the rest of us after you go through “hell” and the “desert” season of your life while trying to achieve something meaningful or just trying to make your life bearable after you were dealt a bad hand or after making enough mistakes to ruin what would have been a decent one.
Going through “Hell” is that period of your life when you start chasing or working towards something meaningful. When you first start, it will seem like the whole universe goes against you to try and stop you. Everything that could go wrong will go wrong, and there are going to be things that go wrong that you can’t even imagine exist at the starting line.
The “hell” season happens, like everything else in this life, for you and not to you, and it happens because you need the test. You said you were going to do something, and now life, the universe, and God Himself are making you prove it. Talk is cheap – PROVE IT!
Hell!
After “hell” comes what I call the desert season of your life.
The desert season of your life will be boring, frustrating and with very few results.
In the hell season of your life, you will have to fight to survive. Every day is going to be a fight to find some solid ground under your feet.
Life balance here? NOWHERE TO BE FOUND.
In the desert season of your life, you will fight with yourself to not quit what you started and worked on for one year, bringing you zero to few results.
In the desert season, one of the questions constantly popping into your mind will be: What the fuck am I doing with my life?
Life balance here? ZERO!
You will have to go through these two seasons of your life alone. People will pop up here and there, but you will be mostly on your own.
These two seasons of your life will feel like swimming in the ocean without a life vest while someone is constantly trying to push you under the water.
There will be no life balance anywhere in sight.
After you pass these two seasons of your life, you will start seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.
After you pass these two seasons of your life, you will get the chance to think about life balance and maybe get to sing like Lil’ Wayne: “Fuck how we used to be, now we how we need to be.”
Remember:
- The “hell” and the “desert” seasons are happening for you, not to you.
- What you try to accomplish will determine the dynamics, intensity, and length of those two seasons. The greater the goal, the greater the test.
- No matter how long or intense the test is, it eventually ends. Hang in there.
With love, yours truly, Cristian.