Being single sucks.

If you tell me that you are living your best life as a single person, I must tell you that I don’t believe you.

I’m not saying that you are lying. I am saying that you never experienced love.

I was married for five years, and I am now divorced and single for almost six years.

My marriage ended with a devastating divorce, but no matter how hard that divorce was, I would still rather be in a good relationship than be single.

The purpose of life is life itself, with ups and downs, because that makes it interesting. And in life, everything is better when shared. Pain is easier to carry when shared, and joy and happiness are also more intense.

Imagine being the king of the world and having no one to talk to. I mean, really talk too—a deep connection with someone. That, for me, would be hell on earth.

A thing I did not know when entering a relationship was the fact that you must have a good relationship with yourself before you can develop a good and healthy relationship with someone else.

When you start developing a relationship with yourself, you discover that you are human. You understand that you are not perfect, that you have qualities and defects like everyone else.

You start understanding that you must be tolerant and forgiving with yourself and that sometimes you must put pressure on yourself because if not, you’ll become lazy and unproductive.

Life is not that hard because we don’t actually need all that much.

We need the humility to kneel before God and pray with all our hearts. This keeps us in check and keeps our moral barometer healthy.

We need to self-educate. Reading and writing keep our minds fresh and clear.

And we need a few good relationships: a spouse and two or three good friends.

That is all we truly need.

All else is extra and sometimes more than we can carry.

Seek, and you shall find.

You may have had a few bad experiences with dating.

So what?

Past failure does not predict your future.

Reconnect with yourself. Start there. Develop a good relationship with yourself. Learn to talk to yourself in a loving manner, laugh with yourself, and don’t forget to laugh at yourself sometimes.

And now, start dating again.

The next first date could be your last first date, or maybe you’ll have 500 first dates before you’ll have your last first date.