Maybe the reason your relationship isn’t working is because you’re stuck in the middle—halfway in and halfway out.
You hesitate, keeping one foot in the door and the other foot outside, just in case things don’t work out or maybe something better comes by.
But here’s the truth: no relationship can thrive when you’re not fully committed.
Life is full of decisions, and relationships are no exception. If you’re finding that things are shaky, maybe it’s time to stop sitting on the fence.
It’s time to decide. Are you in or are you out?
Commitment Requires 100%, Not 50/50
Being in a relationship means you’re committing all of yourself—not just parts of you.
If you want it to work, you need to be all in, 100%, over a long period of time.
Relationships, especially meaningful and lasting ones, don’t blossom overnight.
They take time, effort, and continuous nurturing.
There’s no shortcut to success in love, just like there’s no shortcut to success in any other area of life.
The good things—trust, intimacy, and connection—take time to build.
You need to be patient, be present, and show up every single day.
If you’ve chosen to stay, you need to act like it.
Put in the work, have the tough conversations, and focus on building the future together, not just surviving the moment.
If You’re Going to Leave, Leave
On the other hand, if you’ve decided that the relationship is not for you, then leave.
But do so decisively, with no half-measures. Don’t linger in the shadows or keep peeking over your shoulder. When you leave, it’s not just about walking away physically, it’s about emotionally cutting ties as well.
Dragging things out, staying half-engaged, or constantly looking back will only hurt you both. It creates confusion and prevents both you and your partner from moving on. It’s time to stop the back and forth, the guessing, and the games.
Make a clean break and allow both of you to heal and grow separately.
The Danger of Being “Kinda’ In, Kinda’ Out”
When you’re on the fence, you’re not just hurting your partner—you’re hurting yourself.
You rob yourself of the opportunity to fully experience the joy and depth of a true relationship because you’re always holding something back.
And, at the same time, you’re denying your partner the commitment they deserve.
Indecision is the enemy of progress.
If you’re “kinda’ in and kinda’ out,” you’re stuck in a cycle of stagnation where no real growth or healing can happen. It’s like trying to build a house while tearing it down at the same time.
In the end, you’ll be left with nothing but frustration and disappointment.
Make a Decision—And Stick to It
So, what will it be?
If you choose to stay, really stay. Pour your energy into making the relationship the best it can be. Give it time to mature, work through the rough patches, and build something beautiful together. Love takes time, but it’s worth it when you’re fully invested.
If you choose to leave, then walk away fully. Don’t half-leave. Don’t stay in touch just to see what happens. Don’t hold onto hope or keep revisiting the past.
Let go completely and focus on yourself and your future.
The Power of Clarity
The most important thing in any relationship is clarity—knowing where you stand and where you’re going.
Whether you’re choosing to stay or choosing to go, commit to your decision fully.
Don’t linger in the gray areas.
Relationships thrive in certainty and commitment, not in indecision and doubt.
The truth is, good things take time. They don’t happen overnight, and they don’t happen without effort.
So, if you’re in—be all in.
And if you’re out—be all out.
Either way, make a decision, and give yourself and your partner the respect of clarity.
Whatever you choose, just make sure you choose.
With love, yours truly, Cristian, in collaboration with ChatGPT.