Don’t chase, attract – this is good advice, but it should be explained.
Of course, you should not chase something or someone mindlessly, but if you don’t allow the need for that something or someone to have a place in yourself, you will never attract it or them.
Let’s take dating, for example.
Let’s say you are bored with going out and having stupid fun, and you would like to settle down.
You have to acknowledge that need and let yourself feel it so that it may create a space within yourself.
Feeling the need to share your life with someone and start a family is precisely what you must allow yourself to feel in order to act accordingly.
A need is like an empty space within yourself. It is like a black hole. A black hole is what attracts. Precisely that need is going to attract the right person into your life.
And by allowing yourself to feel that need, although painful, is what’s going to make you awake and aware of the people that enter your life.
I don’t chase, I attract is a broad statement that can throw you into arrogance, and when you become arrogant, you will be humbled.
Allowing yourself to feel the need is humbling yourself. It is like saying I lack something. Out of humility, you will dress differently, you will act differently, and you will attract the right person for you.
Matthew 23:12: “For those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.”
Acting like you are always strong comes out of fear.
Allowing yourself to be human is strength.
Remember that.
With love, yours truly, Cristian.