People will devour you if you let them and then complain about the fact that you did not taste so good.
Listen. Don’t get me wrong. It is always better to be a good person, but you need to take care of yourself; otherwise, people are going to walk all over you. The takers never have a limit or an enough button. They will take and take until nothing is left out of you. You will just have to accept that and stop being immature by saying it is their fault.
It is not. You are an adult, and you are letting other adults take advantage of you just so you can complain later about it. You are seeking attention by being a victim, and then you run back to your abusers so they can take advantage of you some more so you can complain again and again about how unfair people are. They are unfair. You are right. So am I, and so are you. We are people, and we are all imperfect. Deal with it.
There could be one more reason why you find yourself in the victim position. You did not get proper or healthy attention or care from your parents, and now, as an adult, you project that energy and responsibility onto the people around you. You keep searching for a mother figure, a father figure, or both in the people you meet. That puts a responsibility on those people they can not carry, nor should they, and they don’t even know how to treat or react to you.
It is time, my friend. It is time to let yourself grow up. I know that it is painful to accept the fact that your parents were miserable people, but that is just the reality. I know you want to tell them that you did not choose to be born, they did, and they never took on that responsibility. It is wrong, it is sad, and it is not your fault. But you must accept it, let it go, and move on. Accept that pain. Feel it and let it run its course. It won’t destroy you; it won’t break you. It is only going to make you whole and strong.
Show them how it is done. Show them all. Continue to pray. Continue to take care of yourself. The way you look, the way you eat, the way you talk, and the way you interact with people around you. Set healthy boundaries.
Matthew 5 – 37:” But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.”
And after all that, my friend. Just keep winning. Win, and win, and win at life on all fronts until there is no more doubt in anyone’s mind that you are extraordinary, exceptional, and unstoppable.
Always remember that the difference between a champion and a nobody is that the champion does not have an off button. The champion just does not stop.
We all have the same emotions, fears, and feelings of abandonment, but the champions just don’t stop.
No matter what. They just wake up every single day and keep on going, and going, and going.
Can’t wait to see your name on that wall with all the champions who walked this earth.
Let’s go.
You got this.
Do it all with God and for Him. So that when you finally get to meet Him, you can say from the bottom of your heart: I did not give up. I did not stop!
May God bless us all!
With love, yours truly, Cristian.